Be Your Own Kind Of Beautiful
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, right? Meaning, the person who is observing gets to decide what they perceive as beautiful. But why do we struggle so hard to see it in ourselves?
Time for some #realtalk: After a recent DMC (deep and meaningful conversation) with my mum, I realised that being image conscious is something that happens regardless of age, no matter how old, it’s a lot easier to find the flaws in ourselves, rather than looking for a combination of qualities that are beautiful and unique to us. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve caught myself in the mirror and not liked what I’ve seen staring back at me, quite recently I’ve had to take a step back and given myself a stern talking to, ‘check yourself before you reck yourself woman’, I see you all nodding your heads in agreement, we’ve all been there.
What one individual finds irresistible, receives merely a shrug from another. Beauty is based on personal opinions. What I find beautiful will be completely different to what you might, and neither is wrong. For some, beauty is internal and comes from within whereas for others, it’s more on the outer surface. Again, neither is wrong. So why do we find it so hard to see it in ourselves? On near enough a daily basis we are surrounded by TV, social media and glossy paged magazines, portraying what we should consider as ‘beautiful’, which are more often than not, all saying conflicting things.
It’s hard to keep up sometimes, so it’s no wonder we’re in a constant battle with ourselves. That’s not to say it’s all bad, yes admittedly there is a huge amount of negativity surrounding the media sector, but it can also have positive impacts for our body image too. It’s about sifting through and finding the good in a sector which have been so heavily scrutinised. Health and wellness, fitness, industry trends and beauty hacks, are all great ways to help us feel good about ourselves.
Now, I’m not here to give you advice on how you should or could change your mindset, because if I’m being completely honest, it’s still a work in progress for me too, but what I am here to tell you is, it’s ok to have self-doubt, and it’s also ok to feel anxiety and guilt about feeling that way too. Maybe both you and I shouldn’t be so hard on ourselves (a foreign concept eh), but the secret is to learn to forgive.
What I do believe and would also like to highlight is, in a world so heavily geared around tips and tricks aimed to (hopefully) make us feel better about, we should all have the freedom to do exactly that, without judgement and punishment. If you want to dye your hair 3 different colours, you go for it. If you choose to embrace your natural beauty and go make up free or decide to rock a full face of glam, then, “you do you boo”. If you feel good strutting your stuff in a killer LBD and 6-inch heels or keeping it casual in your trackies and trainers, then I’m right there cheering you on. Because really, no one should be telling you what makes you feel beautiful - whether it be inside or out! I don’t think there should be a reason why we shouldn’t feel empowered to do what makes us feel good.
So, let’s take a moment (or two) to appreciate being our own kind of beautiful. Whether that means making as much or as little effort as we like, it’s completely subjective. Pamper yourself, love yourself, give yourself the credit you so rightly deserve.